"You are changing all the time, but the question is for better or for the worst?" Johan hamid
The ideal change is immediate.
However, since we have been programmed for years, and for some more than half a century, change can take some time.
A good example on simple change
Let's say you decide to walk or drive a different route to go to work or go a place you often go. You will have to:
1. Make the decision
2. Find a new route
3. Actively think about your new route most of the time you are driving
Who wants to think?
As the old route is engrained in your body, you do not need to make an effort to find your way with the old route.
When you take a new route, you have to think nearly all the time. This take energy and requires you to concentrate on the new route. This requires more work!!! It does require to use your brain, whereas if you took the normal route, your mind would be free for OTHER activities!
So basically, your mind prefer to be on autopilot most of the time. Autopilot that is there because it was programmed that way, intentionally or not... To save you time over decades and to free your mind for other activities.
Conclusions
So whatever you want to change, can be change, the question really is: am I going against a 2-3 year habit or a 50 year habit? For some, answering that question might help you in your journey to improve yourself.
Inspired by J
Homework
Identify 1 to 3 things that you are committed to change about yourself.
For each item, write the estimated time that habit has been engrained in you.
This will give you an idea of what you are fighting.
Start with the easiest one, to gain "Change Muscles"